http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ating-too-much
http://www.reuniting.info/download/p...al.anxiety.pdf
http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/...r=asc&start=45
"-Masturbation v. Social Shyness-
Masturbation, to me, means that I am alone, I have nobody. It was my understanding early on that masturbation is an EVIL thing to do and so there are connotations of guilt and sin that come along with masturbation. But the feeling of loneliness, failure, ineptitude toward women is much stronger than the feeling of evil. So every time I bust into my own hand I feel a little more pathetic, particularly in moments of my life where I'm not getting laid or even meeting women.
Masturbation was a good thing for me at one time. I was in a long distance relationship. So we'd constantly be talking about how hard we're gonna fuck next time we see each other. No phone sex, but we'd tell each other when we masturbated. Masturbation was a reward and a rewarded activity. It was also eye-opening that a woman could masturbate as much as or more than I do.
I'm not in that relationship anymore and so masturbation is a negative thing for me once again. How much juice I have in my nuts doesn't cause tension in a social environment. What causes the tension is the tiny voice in my mind that says "why even try? you're just gonna go home alone and spank it, you pathetic fuck" My defeated attitude takes over and I can't possibly be confident enough to game girls.
By not masturbating for a set amount of time I accomplish something. I usually set a week long goal of going without blowing my own load. After the 3rd day it gets tough. But if I power through the whole week, it's a mastery of my will power. It's a reminder that blowing my load, while it may be a very natural instinct for me as I try and reproduce, is not the only joy in this world. I take that feeling of self control and transform it into confidence and I bring that confidence with me into the field.
This, my friend, is masturbation's effect on social shyness."
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